The Berman Sisters Can Relax

I've got nothing on them when it comes to talking sex. As mentioned in my previous post, College Daughter was home for a whole month. We had plenty of alone time. I thought it might be an ideal time to once again, try to be the mature adult and have a serious conversation about sex.

Fortunately, (for Husband and me) we've had a free ride in this parenting/dating experience so far because College Daughter was a high school jock. In fact, around these parts, she's quite famous for her skills on the field. She spent her middle and high school years working out, private lessons and at travel tournaments every weekend and all summer. There just wasn't time left over for boys. And after attending freshman homecoming, she proclaimed school dances as "lame - too hot, too crowded and stinky." She went to one other dance, but that was only because her friends were renting a Hummer limo and she didn't want to miss the chance to ride in one of those monsters.

So, here we are with her away at college, and us never having greeted a boy at the door and sent her off on a real date. I was sort of excited last semester when she began talking about a hot guy in one of her classes who was really nice and that she was meeting before class a few times a week to go eat with in the dining hall. Me, being the girl who'd been through a dozen boys by the time I was her age. I didn't pester her too much about the boy, but when she was home on break, I asked what happened with him. She laughed, said he was VERY nice, but that after a while, he didn't seem too bright, had flunked the class they were in together, and liked to talk about his "show pigs." Yeah, you heard that right. And city slicker girl was just not able to relate to that. But, they're still friends.

I'm all about not missing opportunities, so I try to pursue talking sex. I feel guilty when I read about teen pregnancies, STD's and the like. Sure, we had the big talk way back in 5th grade. And she has told me about people she knew in high school who were having sex, and girls at college who were giving oral to dudes in the parking lot. Stuff like that. It's not like we are shy when it comes to gossiping about OTHER PEOPLE. I've bought her a few books that uphold our family's values on the subject. But, it's still not easy to talk about. Here was our 30 second sex talk last week:

Me: Did you ever read that book I got you last year?
Her: What book?
Me: You know, that book about sex.
Her: Yeah, I probably read it.
Me: Well, do you have any questions about it or sex in general?
Her: No
Me: You know you can ask me anything. I won't be embarrassed. You can ask me anything you want.
Her: Ok
Me: So, do you have any questions?
Her: Nope
Me: Ok

Am I lame or what?? Conversely, maybe she really doesn't have any questions because she knows everything already and could teach me a thing or two?

Yesterday, she calls and it's her second day into the semester. She manages to slip this little nugget into the conversation.........."I'm kind of hanging out with a guy tonight." HUH?? It appears that she kept in touch via Facebook all break with some guy and they have sports in common and he asked her if she wanted to shoot some pool and hang out last night.

And, he doesn't live on a farm.