Gossiping About the Old Folks

My son did not have an easy time finding a summer job.  The market still sucks here, and nobody wants to hire and train someone who can only work for a few months before leaving to go back to school.  He applied to about 40 places over spring break and never heard back from any of them.

Big Sister to the rescue!  My oldest daughter messaged the administrator of the assisted living facility she was a nurse's aide for three years during her winter and summer breaks during college.  The administrator said to send him right in for an interview and told him he was getting the job because, "Your sister is the best employee we've ever had."

Even according to my daughter, that's not saying much!  You don't have many go-getters working at these sorts of places, sadly.  Then again, pay a decent wage and you'd get better people.  But I'm wandering now . . .

On his second day of work, my son had this encounter with a lady we will call "Mabel" during the break between breakfast and lunch.  (He is working in Dining Services):

Mabel:  "Get me a salad or I'm going to kick your ass!"
Son:  "I don't think I can do that."
Mabel:  "Oh yes I can!!!!"

Another day, he caught Mabel using a butter knife to try to cut up the plastic tablecloths.  He was told to only give her plastic utensils from now on.  She has asked him to get her some regular silverware, and when he tells her he can't do that, she promptly replies, "Go to Hell!"  My son is about the easiest going person on the planet, so he just laughs off all of this stuff (and secretly loves the drama, I'm sure).  Most days, the most interesting thing that happens is someone will ask him, "What's a waffle?" when he is asking them their menu choices.

He is now Mabel's favorite.  She tries to get his attention everyday, usually by calling him any name she can come up with . . . George, Tiny Tim, Boy.  My son is 6'1".

One evening when his sister was home, he showed her the current dining room seating chart.  They sat on the couch for an hour, talking about all the residents.  She's been gone from the job for 2.5 years, but she still knew about 70% of the residents.  Even though they were imitating the various voices and gaits of those old folks, the gossip warmed my heart.  I miss those days when all my kids lived at home and talked and played together.

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  1. I like Mabel. If I make it to her age, I will probably be her.

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    1. Ill be the old lady gossiping about the youngsters working there.

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  2. When eldest daughter was working with special needs adults at a summer camp we enjoyed visiting almost as much for them as for her. "My name is Justin and I know Jesus and so should you. Do you know Jesus or should I tell you all about him?". That was his greeting to everyone whether he already new you or not. And Mildred was a hugger.

    That is so cool that your children get along that well. We're hoping our daughters circle back to best friends again some day.

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    1. Middle Child has an Aspie friend who seems to be on a similar mission. I finally had to tell my daughter how to politely tell her she already knows Jesus and is perfectly happy at our own church.

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    2. Interestingly enough, eldest daughter just started her first full-time 'permanent' job Monday working with .... special needs adults. Will be interesting to see if she sticks with it for a career or if she someday heads back to her original teaching plan.

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  3. mable sounds fun. i love the elderly myself - no drama - well not in this case, but what can you do but laugh. some are so up in age, they don't give a darn what they do or say. too funny. keep us up to date with your son and mable stories, well if you want. ;) all the best to him while he is there.

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    1. I will keep you posted if she does anything outrageous. I think my son enjoys their honesty and inappropriateness.

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  4. OMG, I laughed out loud when I read about Mabel! She sounds like a feisty lady, and I love that. But that's probably because I'm going to be the same way when I get that age - HA!

    I have always enjoyed being around the elderly, so I think I would like that job.

    "and told him he was getting the job because, "Your sister is the best employee we've ever had."

    What a wonderful compliment! And I'm sure a lot of your daughters' good work ethics came from you and your husband, and what you instilled in her (and all your children).

    Love the way you ended this post.

    " Even though they were imitating the various voices and gaits of those old folks, the gossip warmed my heart. I miss those days when all my kids lived at home and talked and played together."

    Beautiful!

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    1. Thanks, Ron. Ironically, my daughter had a run-in with the Administrator over the poor treatment of one of the patients, back when she worked there. Long story, but I guess the Adminstrator gained some respect for her after the incident.

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  5. Mabel sounds like a real character. And your son sounds like a fine young man! He handles her better than I ever could!

    "I miss those days when all my kids lived at home and talked and played together."

    That's a real heartbreaker. I have a vague memory of me and my three siblings as young adults having dinner with our parents. It was just us and our folks. That was probably the last time that ever happened.

    Thanks for your sharing your feelings, Bijoux!

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    1. I think my son has more patience than me. Actually, I know he does!

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  6. I too miss those times when they were young and played together, etc. I bet Mabel will be sad when your son has to return to college at the end of the summer. I do feel for "young ones" so to speak that need a summer job and you are right, who wants to train them only to have them leave in a few months. The summer break here for the high school is only about 7 weeks long; I know a lot who want to work can't work for that same very reason; train and then they'll be back to school where there are work laws they can only work so many hours a week, not after 9 o'clock on school days, etc. So glad that your son was able to snag some type of employment while he is at home.

    betty

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    1. He knows he is lucky to have found a job, plus getting almost full-time hours. I'm glad he has a job interacting with people instead of factory assembly like one of his friends does.

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  7. I expect if I end up in an oldies' home I'll be as irreverent and truculent as Mabel. As v says, if you're an advanced age, I guess you don't really care what others think any more. Glad your son managed to find a summer job. And it sounds like he found it most entertaining.

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    1. It's awesome when seniors just say what they think, isn't it? Although the whole ass kicking thing is a bit much.

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  8. My sister worked in a facility like that when she was a teenager. Yes, they're always looking for caring, compassionate employees... It also gives him the power to really touch people who need it. I have a feeling it will have a profound impact on him, as well.

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    1. I really hope it does. Personally, I've always thought he should go into some form of therapy or medical profession, but he hated HS biology. Maybe this experience will change his mind.

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  9. Heh. . . Give it yer best shot, Mabel. . .

    ;)

    There's a Mabel-type at the home where my mom is. I think certain types of dementia involve a disabling of 'filters'. Just before she died, my own sweet grandmother was good for an F-bomb or two. . .

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    1. Or, Mabel is pulling everyone's leg because she's bored and looking for a reaction. You never know . . .

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  10. I think my tolerance glands would flare up in a job like that.

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    1. You aren't the easy going sort, like my son?

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  11. to some degree - but I don't tolerate rudeness very well

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  12. I gotta say you are right about the market. I have been unemployed since late December and cannot seem to find a full time job. I have a part time one and a few leads but the going has been rough out there!

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  13. Mabel reminds me of a patient at the psych hospital when I was an intern. She was a spitfire and particularly obsessed with the idea that there were "queers in the attic." That woman had a sailor's mouth.

    You new deck looks fantastic!

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    1. Mabel was obsessed with tornados yesterday. She told my son he was going to have a hell of a drive home.

      It was 70 degrees and sunny!

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  14. Aww. Bless his heart. Good for him! That is a hard job. So many of the folks are probably fighting off early dementia or Alzheimer's. That would explain the crazy comments and angst. And he is such a dear about it. Love that.
    Some good kids you've got there!

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    1. Thanks, Kat. Yesterday, someone had a fit over raisin toast. He has a story everyday!

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  15. A close family friend who lives in Texas always calls Tara "Mabel." I have no idea why! The names aren't even close.

    This story reminds me of why I'm glad I never worked in dining services. Then again, I did work retail, and there were plenty of Mabels to deal with there, as well.

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    1. My first job out of college was in retail management. It was loads of fun, being a 22 yr old, telling Erma and Margie to do this or that, when they'd been doing it since before I was born.

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  16. That's really cool! I hope your son is still doing well at this job, and not letting Mabel get his goat.

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